It amazes me sometimes how much credit we put in men, how much control we give them as women.  We talk about how they are not that important and sometimes about how they’re jerks.  And yet you see women when something happens going in and getting surgeries, working out, losing weight, dieting, changing everything about themselves because they think for some reason that something is wrong with them.  Now personality wise, sometimes you are crazy, sometimes you don’t treat him that well, and while cheating is not great, him dumping you is one of those things.  But you see all sorts of songs lately about men who are now saying I cheated on you, but I’m sorry and I want you back.  When mad at men, my friends and I have a whole thing about see that’s exactly how it is.  So those songs granted are great.  This being said, realistically speaking, if he’s going to cheat, it’s not really about you, it’s about him.  So it’s a great motivation for weight loss yes.  But at the same point in time, don’t let it be your major motivation or otherwise I wouldn’t really give him the satisfaction.  It’s kinda like those people who hold onto things people did to them in elementary school and then go onto the Maury show or something.